Warning Signs/Red Flags of Unhealthy Relationships

March 19th, 2014 by Anne Parpas

All relationships have their ups and downs, but as we sometimes experience, there are times when we do not pay attention to the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship.  At first it may feel like it is “too good to be true” and then all of a sudden we wonder why we feel like “something is just not right.”    Here are some of the red flags of unhealthy and abusive relationships:

*Tells you who you can and cannot see

*Gets upset when you spend time with other friends or family

*Puts you down in front of friends and family

*Pressures you to have sex

*Pressures you to use drugs or alcohol

*Grabs, chokes, hits, or pushes you

*Wants to know the details of where you have been, who you have been with, and what you have been doing

*Gets angry very easily and becomes violent

*Threatens to do something terrible to you or someone you love if you break up

*Violent or demeaning language

*Using intimidation by using looks, actions, gestures, smashing things, destroying property, abusing pets, and displaying weapons

*Begs forgiveness after hurting you and promises never to do it again

Relationships are not perfect, but it is so important to evaluate what is healthy and what is not healthy about any relationship, whether it is with a family member, friend, co-worker, and significant other.  If you are struggling with a current relationship that has these warning signs and behaviors, we are here to help. Whether you are having a hard time managing your own anger, or you feel physically and/or emotionally unsafe, IHC is a safe and confidential place to get the help you need.

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